SEXUAL BEHAVIORS AND WHAT THEY MAY REVEAL.

a)     A PERSON  who needs to be in control, limits their partner’s input, and tends to dominate the relationship may suggest insecurity or underlying feelings of inadequacy. Also this type of spouse may dominate in the sexual realm as well. They misconstrue CONTROL (fear/avoidance) for STRENGTH (respect).

b)    A PERSON  who avoids intimacy and feels disgust or anxiety concerning sexual issues may suggest a rigid upbringing, some emotional or physical violation, or suppression of their own sexual desire.

c)     A PERSON who resists closeness and shames their spouse when sex is brought up may be using anger/shame as a distancing emotion and may appear to have unresolved problems with spouse or members of opposite sex.

d)     A PERSON who is inexperienced or (uneducated) concerning sex and struggles to adopt adult roles may suggest anxiety due to dependency needs, a fear of responsbility, or a fear of assuming an adult role.

e)     A PERSON who is apathetic about sex, sees it as a duty and obligation rather than a joy may believe their partner is needy and weak for desiring sex. They may  “give in” to intimacy (not joyfully), but can build anger and resentment toward partner.

f)     A PERSON who has sex, then feels resentment, guilt, and grief may feel anxious that they have displayed uncontrolled behaviors or been “sexually aroused and feel dirty” and may have unresolved misbeliefs about sex.